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Using each other: Wealthy women hiring younger men in Kenya for relationships

A photographer found herself in the middle of the unusual world. Here’s what she found.

IN 2009, SOFIE Amalie Klougart traveled to Mombasa, Kenya with a non-profit organisation.

Her day job was to document ActionAid’s numerous efforts to alleviate poverty in the country. Fascinated by the country, Klougart spent her nights and weekends travelling the country in search of stories.

While visiting the country’s numerous beautiful beaches, Ama was struck by the many older European women she saw carousing with young Kenyans. When she inquired with one of the women, she found that she was witnessing what many call “romance tourism” — lonely men and women who travel to impoverished countries in search of companionship and locals who willingly oblige, in exchange for gifts, free meals, and, sometimes, cold hard cash.

Klougart began documenting the affairs of the many women she met on the beaches of Kenya who introduced her to the sometimes troubling and sometimes empowering world of women who go after exactly what they want and nothing more.

Klougart shared a number of the photos with us here, but you can see the rest at her website.

Klougart first came across “romance tourism” while she was walking along the beaches of Mombasa, Kenya. There she saw older, single, white women, who were often surrounded by young Kenyans. “It was very easy to spot,” Klougart told Business Insider.

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The hotels in Mombasa were full of European travelers, both male and female, travelling alone. Everyone at the hotels, from the receptionists to the help, was aware of relationships between those in the hotel and the locals, according to Klougart.

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Klougart met her first subject, Louise, on the beach. She told Louise that she was doing a story about love. Louise laughed and said, “Love! That doesn’t exist here!” Louise was in a relationship with two different Kenyan men and introduced Klougart to many of the women in the area.

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Louise first began living in Kenya in 1997 when she went to work as a tour guide. As a tour guide, she saw many tourists have romances with the locals and she swore that she would never become one of them.

Not long after, Louise began dating a Kenyan man and had a child. The three of them moved to France, but Louise kicked the man out after she caught him cheating. She moved back to Kenya so her son Joshua could connect with his roots.

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Most often, the women begin “dating” the Kenyan men because they are lonely. The men usually play along because they live in awful poverty. Playing along can guarantee the men a comfortable bed in a hotel, as well as meals and gifts from the women that the men keep or sell for things they need.

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Most of the women are from Germany, Switzerland, eastern Europe, and Turkey. They are usually older and wealthy, and sometimes overweight.

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In many cases, money is handled discreetly so that the women can preserve the fantasy of the romance. Other times, it is far more explicit, with women paying the men directly for sex.

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One woman that Klougart met travels from Germany twice a year, staying three weeks each time. She visits the same man each time she comes.

When she arrives, she gives the man enough money for him to pay for everything while she is there. Many of the women hate the idea of playing the “sugar momma.” When she leaves, she gives the man money as well.

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In many cases, the men are looking to secure a way out of Kenya to Europe through their lovers.

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This can lead to elaborate relationships that blur the line between the reality and the fantasy.

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Many women get caught up in the fantasy and experience hurt, confusion, and anger when they realise that they were just being used.

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Most of the time, however, the women are aware that both are using each other. One for companionship and the other for economic security.

For example, one of the women Klougart met works in the hotel industry in Europe and travels to Kenya each year to escape her life. Her husband died of cancer 20 years ago and she doesn’t want a new father for her children, only some companionship when she needs it.

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Klougart learned that the practice is not limited to Kenya. It is common in numerous other vacation spots, especially the Caribbean, where a lot of people are willing to pay for connection.

All images Sofie Amalie Klougart

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:22 PM

    Sounds like a dáta gathering exercise similar to the mandatory PPS card

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:33 PM

    @Ashling Fenton: they already have the data

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:44 PM

    @Ashling Fenton: PPS card. This country needs a national ID card.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 10:15 PM

    @Sean O’Dhubhghaill: No, no it does not.

    The feckin’ Guards are bad enough as it is without giving them Gestapo-like ideas.

    “Papers please”

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:18 PM

    A disaster waiting to happen. Everything’s going online and no human available to talk to about it.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 9:12 PM

    @reg morrisey: they will have a chatbot which has the capability to answer questions you are not asking and be of no use whatsoever.
    When will the useless chatbot be consigned to the bin?

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    Jun 6th 2024, 7:56 AM

    @Mr “JonnieBoy” Johnson: Clippy lives.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:05 PM

    Russia must be salivating at the thought of this.

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    @Daniel Skelton: You never told us non aviation folk (who you scoffed at) why the north runway was closed a few weeks ago?!?! It was only broken at 500ft.

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    @another one? what’s going on is the semi state sec: I don’t think you know despite pretending you did!?!?

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:21 PM

    I will collect the free information booklet
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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:52 PM

    @Aisling Lohan: I assume you wrote that comment on a typewriter and posted it off to the Journal’s offices.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 9:10 PM

    Unless it costs 500 million and is a complete waste of time we’re not interested

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:42 PM

    A hackers wet dream!

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    Jun 5th 2024, 10:31 PM

    we can’t build a hospital…yet we think we can secure people’s data …doing what Europe tells us ….

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    Jun 5th 2024, 9:11 PM

    It’s all just for your convince, and definitely not to track you like a Chinese dissident who can be shut down and switched off in a micro second.

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    Jun 6th 2024, 2:33 AM

    @087 bed: paranoid much?!

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    Jun 6th 2024, 9:17 AM

    @Donna Fallon: “just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean their not out to get you”. LOL

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:54 PM

    Unsavory actors could hack into the database, and add people, or delete them.

    You might no longer officially exist.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 10:33 PM

    @ItWasLikeThatWhenIGotHere: its only a digital copy.not the actual documents,which can be kept safely elsewhere

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    Jun 5th 2024, 10:37 PM

    @Systemic 31: Now try to get someone to even talk with when you don’t exist anyway.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 10:18 PM

    We’re running headlong into a dystopian society

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    Jun 5th 2024, 11:16 PM

    @Vincent Hickey: Having a copy of my driving license on my phone is dystopian? Who knew.

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    Jun 6th 2024, 6:52 AM

    @Jason Memail: lol

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    Jun 6th 2024, 4:28 PM

    @Jason Memail: Well, you could always take a photo of same for reference.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 9:51 PM

    The Digital driver’s licence should be required to start a vehicle and should only be eligible if you are fully insured, too many uninsured drivers are causing carnage on our roads causing tragic traumatic Life altering or ending events on our roads.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 10:21 PM

    @Cormac McKay: A problem easily solved.

    If the state compels us to have 3rd party insurance, then the state should provide it. Remove profit scheming insurance companies from the equation altogether.
    (If anyone wants any additional level of insurance, such as fully comp, then they can go to a private profit gouging insurance company.)

    If the state charged for this insurance through a fuel surcharge, as an example, then every vehicle is automatically insured.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 11:21 PM

    @Cormac McKay: Your point seems to be anchored on the idea that having insurance makes you a better driver, which is fundamentally false. Insurance is only an agreement to do something if an incident occurs, it doesn’t prevent the incident happening in the first place.

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    Jun 6th 2024, 7:15 AM

    @Jason Memail: i agree. It doesnt make people better drivers because accidents happen but it covers you if someone is injured or there is damage done to a car you have a loan on.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:03 PM

    Great idea, scrap the plastic cards and paper passports once and for all.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:53 PM

    @Ben dover: And if your abroad and lose your phone?

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    Jun 5th 2024, 9:10 PM

    @ItWasLikeThatWhenIGotHere: if you lose your phone or tablet containing them, you will most likely be able to go online at another source and retrieve your information that way while at the same time blocking your lost item. Just an idea?

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    Jun 5th 2024, 9:15 PM

    @ItWasLikeThatWhenIGotHere: everyone will eventually have a barcode tattoo

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    Jun 5th 2024, 9:17 PM

    @ItWasLikeThatWhenIGotHere: It doesn’t say it’s replacing physical documents, it’s just another tool for convenience. It’s a pain in the Swiss losing physical documents too, I can only speak for myself but I’m more likely to lose something physical than my phone (including bank cards). It’s one reason I like the passport card, easier to keep close to me at all times than the book.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 9:43 PM

    @Megan Ward: Stolen phones?

    And could the thief use that phone to impersonate you?

    I’d imagine phones are targets for theft more than any other item even today.
    With all that extra valuable information on them…

    And how would you be able to go online to retrieve that information, when it is – presumably – stored on a government database to which you will probably also have lost account access.
    Unless you are able to remember the gazillion extra user names and passwords that would be added to all those we have to try to keep control of already.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 10:18 PM

    @ItWasLikeThatWhenIGotHere: If my phone is stolen and the thief threatens me to such a violent and scary extent that I tell them my passcode, or knocks me out so that they can pull my eyelids open and use my Face ID, I’ve got bigger problems than worrying what they’ll get into on my phone. If this did happen and they were able to get into my phone, I’d be using iCloud to remotely erase the phone. Phones can be stolen with or without these ‘digital wallets’, this isn’t a new potential issue.

    I’d be screwed if I was abroad and someone stole a bag that contained my cash and passport if I only used cash, is that a reason for no one to ever carry cash? No, you use what you prefer and the more backup methods you have, the better.

    I don’t know about you but I prioritise learning more important passwords off by heart. More concerned about making sure I remember my Gmail password or Apple ID than my Facebook or ASOS password, for example.

    Let’s save the fretting until this is mandatory, maybe? If you don’t want to use it, don’t. If they announce that they’re slashing physical ID documents then we can start panicking. There are lots of features people use that others freak out at the idea of, like Apple Pay and Google Pay.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 10:20 PM

    @ItWasLikeThatWhenIGotHere: Oh, because you’ll come back with ‘and how will you log into iCloud when your phone is gone???’ I would use the phone of a friend, my boyfriend or family. Or find an internet café. Or use my iPad if I’ve brought that and left it in the hotel safe. If I’m doing a solo trip, I need to be extra careful about absolutely anything. Wouldn’t go on many holidays if we assumed the worst will happen every time, though.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 10:42 PM

    @Megan Ward: It’s not about assuming the worst will happen.

    But it will happen to some.

    And it’s not about someone torturing you to gain account information.
    We thought our bank cards were secure. Until several ways of hacking these were created.
    We thought our bank accounts were safe, until scammers found ways.
    There are many spywares and the like that may already be on your phone.

    With new ones coming down the line all the time.

    I’ve yet to meet many who don’t let their device handle their account information, and who would have any clue what their account names and passwords are.
    When they get a new device they have no clue how to get onto their accounts anymore.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 10:51 PM

    @ItWasLikeThatWhenIGotHere: You’re right, there could be spyware on our phones and computers stealing our data, getting into all of the websites we use and taking important personal data. What’s the solution, go off the grid and use nothing? Never use things like Revenue Online Service (that contains very important information) in case it’s hacked? That’s not a practical solution for most, all we can do is practice good internet security techniques, use 2 Factor Authentication where possible and the like.

    With all due respect to them, those people are very careless. You’re right in that there are so many websites now it’s hard to remember passwords to all, but it’s not a big ask to remember your Google password, Apple/Android details, basically anything you’ll need to get into things again. In almost 20 years of using the internet I’ve been completely locked out of something once, because it was linked to an old email service that’s now defunct. I don’t understand these people who seemingly don’t even know their email password and keep setting up new accounts for everything every time they get a new device.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 11:02 PM

    @Megan Ward: Nope!

    Just don’t make ourselves unnecessarily reliant on one single point of failure.
    (Although physically we have single points of failure in our brains and our hearts.)

    Always have a paper copy of your birth cert somewhere.
    A physical passport.
    And so on.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 11:09 PM

    @ItWasLikeThatWhenIGotHere: I think everyone can agree on that. I first got the passport card when I was visiting the US for the first time, knew I’d need ID everywhere but they don’t accept age cards and I didn’t fancy the idea of having my passport book out everywhere especially if drinking, so kept that in the safe. Handy to have the card anyway.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 11:15 PM

    @ItWasLikeThatWhenIGotHere: Nobody is suggesting that digital versions of birth certs or drivers licenses will replace physical versions. This is a great initiative, despite what the doomsayers and pearl clutchers say

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    Jun 6th 2024, 7:10 AM

    @ItWasLikeThatWhenIGotHere: and if you’re abroad and lose your wallet now?

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:29 PM

    Deartháir mór is watching…

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:38 PM

    New hack

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    Jun 6th 2024, 1:51 AM

    It is amusing that people are raging about data and digital trackers yet they are most likely on a mobile phone which not only gives away data with your consent but also tracks you too. What triggered you lot was the word ‘government’. You saw that word and never took the time to engage your brain before commenting.

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    Jun 6th 2024, 10:41 AM

    @Sun Rise:
    Bullseye.
    Although nowadays you have to wonder how many comments are from computers triggered by certain words.

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    Jun 6th 2024, 12:41 AM

    Kindly feck off with your digital tracker.

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    Jun 5th 2024, 9:12 PM

    Just put it all on a chip and implant it into our wrists… Problem solved… ??

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    Jun 6th 2024, 8:00 AM

    @Blue Moon: Right up until the accident that takes your arm off or it gets fried in an MRI scanner.

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    Jun 6th 2024, 12:06 AM

    Bad idea

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    Jun 6th 2024, 12:41 AM

    It is a digital vaccine

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    Jun 5th 2024, 8:27 PM

    Whoahere

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    Jun 6th 2024, 7:46 AM

    Brilliant, another soft target for cyber attacks.

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    Jun 6th 2024, 6:06 AM

    As an IT person, give me the contract. The technology is already here, so I will just use it and charge a fortune. Nice.

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    Jun 6th 2024, 7:58 AM

    @did you every wonder: Fine but you sign up for liability for all future cyber attacks.
    Still want the job?

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    Jun 6th 2024, 9:52 AM

    How about starting slowly and getting the leap card sorted so it can be used on your phone. Baby steps !!

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    Jun 6th 2024, 6:31 AM

    Anybody who listens to Ossian Smyth needs there head screwing back on.

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    Jun 6th 2024, 11:13 AM

    Tracking whole life is coming not fair on few people that dont do online

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