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'I received death threats and constant torture': Cyberbullying victims speak out

Young people want more regulation in the area.

MEMBERS OF YOUTH initiative Future Voices recently met with the president and head commissioner of the Law Reform Commission to discuss the issue of cyberbullying.

Some of the young people have experienced cyberbullying and submitted a report to the commission – which is currently undertaking a project on cybercrime and cyberbullying – based on their own experiences.

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A spokesperson for Future Voices told TheJournal.ie the organisation thinks it is “extremely important that young people are at the heart of tackling this issue as it effects them in their everyday lives”.

Here, some of the young people share their own experiences of being bullied online:

Nathan McDonagh (17)

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“I was bullied ‘traditionally’ for six years. I was beaten, called names and excluded. It was a day in and day out struggle but, at evenings and weekends, I was able to escape the torment.

“Unfortunately with the advent of social media, it gave the perpetrators a new platform to attack me. This was in the first wave of these websites and it has only grown since. It gave them a 24/7 connection to me.

I received death threats, photoshopped pictures of myself and constant torture. I felt so alone and had very few people I felt I could trust. It had become so bad and hurtful that I had to leave my school. It was one of the worst, if not the worst, experiences of my life.

“These tools to connect and bring people together are being used to ostracise and make people feel like they aren’t equal and it’s time to put a stop to this. Too many young people have taken their own lives to escape the world of abuse. How many more must die before we have an adequate solution?”

David Hanney (18)

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“I was very young when myself and my friends started on Facebook and other sources of social media. From these early days there was bullying happening. In my school, bullies were able to reach people they wouldn’t normally talk to and say horrible things that they would never say in person.

I have seen people make fun of people’s relatives, dead or alive. People bullied each other over their choices of girls, friends and lifestyle. I have friends who were threatened online by anonymous people and because of these threats they stopped leaving there house and stopped behaving like the friends that I knew.

“I have witnessed cyberbullying in its full effect. Luckily I have never been cyberbullied, but I know those who have. I know how they felt and feel over this issue. I feel that there is no protection at the moment which is most worrying. It is hard to accept that my younger brother and sister have no protection and are in danger.

“I feel that new legislation would be a big step in the right direction. I hope that speaking to the Law Reform Commission will mean that young people’s voices are heard on cyberbullying.”

Emma Irwin (17)

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“The introduction of technology has made everyone’s life easier, unfortunately this includes bullies. Social media platforms, which allow people to connect with anyone from anywhere, mean there is no escaping their reach, unless something changes.

“Sure, you can block someone but there is a huge stigma around blocking people amongst young people and unfortunately there are always ways around it – with people creating fake pages and using friend’s profiles.

Everyone that I know can say they’ve seen cyberbullying happen. Pages set up with the sole purpose of slagging someone, sharing photos without permission, demeaning comments under someone’s status and the setting of someone else’s profile as yours.

“I’m lucky, I’ve never personally experienced this but I’ve still seen it happen to several of my friends. What I have experienced is less obvious but still not nice: the deliberate snubbing that is only noticeable to those that know what has happened, statuses with the hidden meanings that you’re no longer part of that group, that you’re no longer welcome.

“But there’s also the private messages and group chats, that people can repeatedly add you back into even if you leave. There is so much that can happen online and there are no boundaries or rules.”

Dean Perth Brennan (16)

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From a young age I have been bullied in school and on the streets – and everywhere in between, anywhere I went someone would put me down. I managed to learn how to block this out and would always take it in my stride until social media came along, it is a lot harder to block out a status or a comment about you when it is constantly there. At least in person words only last a few seconds.

“I’m happy I wasn’t affected too much by cyberbullying, but I know people for whom it became a major problem and affected them day to day. In one case it caused someone I know to take their own life.”

IMG_1162 Nathan McDonagh; Dean Perth Brennan; Legal Researcher Fiona O'Regan; Emma Irwin; President of the Law Reform Commission Justice John Quirke; Director of Research Raymond Byrne; and David Hanney. Future Voices Future Voices

Mairead Healy, CEO of Future Voices Ireland, said young people “need to be listened to when it comes to cyberbullying”.

She said the meeting with the Law Reform Commission was “a fantastic opportunity for our young people to engage with policy makers on a topic that deeply effects them”.

The young people of Future Voices are so passionate about this topic because it is wreaking havoc on their generation. It is important that we see the impact that cyberbullying is having on our young people and that we take action now before it is too late.

The Law Reform Commission said engaging with Future Voices on this issue is a particularly valuable as “young people have an important insight in this area” because they “have been victims of such behaviour or know of others who have been victimised”.

The Commission is currently developing recommendations on cyberbullying and related behaviour.

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    Mute Alan Rossiter
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    May 31st 2015, 8:18 PM

    Dear Journal.ie. Please defend my right to read what our TDs say in the Dail and the right of our press to report on and scrutinise what they say. Anything else is giving in to bullying.

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    Mute Ivan Murphy
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    Jun 1st 2015, 12:39 AM

    Touche sir!

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    Mute Kaz
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    Jun 1st 2015, 1:01 AM

    I am actually sick of the DOB comments especially on articles where they are highly inappropriate. If you are that upset over the journal not reporting I suggest you switch media outlets!

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    Mute Ivan Murphy
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    Jun 1st 2015, 2:03 AM

    Kaz.do you pay taxes?? Well “possibly”, it ‘may’ be the case that you have subsidise someones debts!

    To ‘beat the band’, our media has been silenced.

    Excuse us if, as citizens, we are a tad annoyed.

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    Mute Swanky Joe
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    May 31st 2015, 8:06 PM

    what about the courtroom bully

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    Mute Deco James Connolly
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    May 31st 2015, 8:15 PM

    Or a media bully .

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    Mute Swanky Joe
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    May 31st 2015, 8:17 PM

    one and the same

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    Mute Dave Doyle
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    May 31st 2015, 8:12 PM

    Here it comes, the heart tugging stories to justify the censoring of social media. Legislation is already on the way. It is desperately need now to stop people discussing 1.25%.

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    Mute stephen
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    May 31st 2015, 8:21 PM

    Since when did thejournal become a serious, media source. I always thought it was lighthearted, and a way for people to write funny puns, and for grammar nazis to help me with my English.

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    Mute Charlie Fogarty
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    May 31st 2015, 8:50 PM

    *Nazis

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    Mute Jebus
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    May 31st 2015, 8:07 PM

    While it’s awful that some people take their own lives over cyberbullying. A lot of cyberbullying is extremely easy to stop by blocking and not replying. When they reply it’s just going to keep on happening. It shouldn’t be as much as a problem as it is and wouldn’t be if victims didn’t reply. And for anonymous sites like ask.fm the solution is either to turn anonymous questions off or just don’t use the website.
    When it gets more serious like people making accounts non stop every time you block them then something should be done about it. But in secondary school children are told to block and not reply to them so many of them ignore the advice that they are given and they just make their own situation worse.

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    Mute Lisa Scholey
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    Jun 1st 2015, 1:52 AM

    Totally agree Jayo. I was bullied – thankfully before cyberbullying days. Everyone gives you lots of advice to follow, but most of it only makes things worse not better. It really isn’t that simple.

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    Mute The Sinister Fringe
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    May 31st 2015, 8:39 PM

    Our country is being bullied by a conman based in Malta.

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    Mute George O'Connor
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    May 31st 2015, 11:36 PM

    Shut it

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    Mute John
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    Jun 1st 2015, 1:41 AM

    Listen you filthy bullying moron. I was bullied in school in work and it nearly killed me so do me a favour and take your obsession with DOB somewhere else. You disgusting b******s how dare you troll this story.

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    Mute Lisa Scholey
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    Jun 1st 2015, 1:47 AM

    Yes. But that is not the issue here. Using teenagers having a hard time as a vehicle for political agendas is not fair. There are some very brave young people here who have told their stories to help others, even though that might make them targets for more bullying. Keep the political agendas for the political discussions. Otherwise you undermine these courageous people by making them seem like a side issue. They are not.

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    Mute winding_down
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    Jun 1st 2015, 2:25 AM

    @John;

    With respect, try to detach your own interest in this article from the deafening silence surrounding DOB’s banking affairs which have caused a constitutional crisis this weekend. People are not “obsessed” with DOB, they are “obsessed” with a functional democracy and free press.

    Do not take it so personally. They’re standing up for your rights too.

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    Mute Lisa Scholey
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    Jun 1st 2015, 2:40 AM

    With respect, try to detach your interest in DOB from human and social issues that are not connected with financial or political affairs. Or has everyone forgotten that young people committing suicide is also an issue in this country? Do you think DOB is more important? These young people deserve to also have ‘free press’.

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    Jun 1st 2015, 8:52 AM

    usual trolls at it again …. yawn

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    Mute Rooney
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    May 31st 2015, 8:37 PM

    Denis O Brien related comment!!!

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    Mute John J Rambo
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    May 31st 2015, 8:03 PM

    1.25%

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    Mute Al Ca
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    May 31st 2015, 8:44 PM

    Now the beginning of the media campaign to soften the public towards the legislation being proposed by Higgins and Rabbitte to censor social media under the guise of cyberbullying.
    Be warned….these Labour pocket stuffers want to kill opinion, discussion and free speech.

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    Mute Ivan Murphy
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    Jun 1st 2015, 12:41 AM

    A crude, crude beginning!

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    Mute Lucille Ball
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    May 31st 2015, 9:27 PM

    DOB COURTROOM BULLY MEDIA BULLY… CONMAN!!!!!

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    Mute Declan Burke
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    May 31st 2015, 8:50 PM

    There has been a guy called Chris cyberbulling people on the Journal comments all Day long and nobody has said anything…

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    Mute Deco James Connolly
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    May 31st 2015, 9:00 PM

    Boom boom !

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    May 31st 2015, 9:23 PM

    He seems to be hiding again. I wonder when a new account will pop up

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    Jun 1st 2015, 3:13 PM
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    May 31st 2015, 8:47 PM

    The real bullies are a govt and judiciary that try to surpress investigation of what is clearly public concern and of public interest. This state has gone backwards under FG/Lab.

    Why is did everyone else who owed more that €50mn+ to Anglo go into NAMA but one individual it seems not only didn’t but was able to win bids and have debt written off on new deals and allegedly get v favourable rates of interest based on “verbal” agreements with that one Sean Fitzpatrick. They were thick as thieves. Smells to high heaven! Quinn and alot of other business were not given same favourable terms

    Lets vote in a party of independents at GE that will do a proper judicial review and get rid of blue shirts once and for all.

    Kenny you are a $cum bag of the highest order, you will be found out, you will be brought to justice, you cannot possible find a big enough rock to hide under.

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    Mute Ivan Murphy
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    Jun 1st 2015, 12:44 AM

    IF you vote for a man/woman controlled by a Whip, you deserve the same!

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    Mute Ken McCarthy
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    May 31st 2015, 8:30 PM

    Some interesting all encompassing reading…

    http://www.fairsociety.ie/tag/denis-obrien/

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    Mute yorkie robinson
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    May 31st 2015, 8:40 PM

    Great stuff Ken.

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    May 31st 2015, 8:25 PM

    We need a gagging order on the Internet. Right now goddamit!

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    Mute Deco James Connolly
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    May 31st 2015, 8:33 PM

    We need to be able to protect unelectable labour senators from the reality that no one wants to vote for her , I suggest a bill limiting internet freedoms written by a former minister who has had no credible evidence of his impact on Irish politics other than his fat pension and wobbly jowls be presented to the Dail and be soundly rejected .

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    May 31st 2015, 8:33 PM

    DoB. Power junky

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    May 31st 2015, 8:35 PM

    Heartbreaking that evil people can now hurt others without even being near them

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    Mute Deco James Connolly
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    May 31st 2015, 8:59 PM

    Politicians do it all the time .

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    Mute Ivan Murphy
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    Jun 1st 2015, 12:32 AM

    Wow, I mean wow!

    On a weekend like this, when the ‘Journalists’ of this country are silenced, we have this article!

    One would think that you actually want me to agree that we need restrictions free speech!!!

    I can empathise with the above but I find the timing ‘spectacular’.

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    Mute GO GREEN
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    May 31st 2015, 11:04 PM

    So why not just ban free speech, its pretty much dead anyway. Bullies are usually cowards anyway and who gives a stuff what any bullying moron says.

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    Mute stephen
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    May 31st 2015, 10:03 PM

    I don’t like been part of the click , whats all this dob about and why is everyone on here going on about it

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    Mute Al Ca
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    May 31st 2015, 10:27 PM

    You’re suffering from apathy….like most of the population that votes the same pocket stuffers back into power over and over again….ad nauseam.

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    Mute Ivan Murphy
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    Jun 1st 2015, 12:35 AM

    Stephen, do you pay taxes?? Well “possibly”, it ‘may’ be the case that you have subsidise someones debts!

    The next time you look at your wage slip, enjoy!

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    Jun 1st 2015, 8:53 AM

    I do pay taxes , where does this guy live

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    Jun 1st 2015, 12:48 PM

    It’s no surprise the constant abuse / fabricated stories / support of unverified accounts against left wing government parties when you consider how many right wingers are in dob’s pocket ..He wants to keep the puppets right where they are.. a left wing government would destroy him and his grubby empire

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