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This article contains content of a very explicit nature.
EVERY NIGHT THIS week as part of our Sex Week series TheJournal.ie will be running a seven-day diary submitted by readers.
The Editor asked each diarist to anonymise their entries but to be as honest as possible in terms of activities and thoughts.
The diaries have been lightly edited for style and length but are the diarist’s own words.
Tonight, we hear from a man in his 20s who has just got married….
TUESDAY
“Woke up and tried to initiate morning sex but my wife was having none of it as she said her period had ran long and was still not fully gone. I went for a shower and left to go about my day.
“Throughout the day I did not really think too much about sex. Tonight, she said that she was now off her period fully and had a shower so we had a very rough session. It ended with me wanting her to jerk me off onto her face and body but she wasn’t up for that after her shower so she aimed it at my stomach. I saw the funny side to it.”
WEDNESDAY
Woke up absolutely aching for sex but the wife had already left for work so I pulled out the laptop and went straight to porndig.com and masturbated to a gangbang scene.
“I did not reach climax due to being interrupted by a phone call, it was about my phone service so naturally I lost the mood. I thought about sex a lot during the day, mostly about wanting my wife to be a bit more adventurous. Tonight we had a few glasses of wine and a couple of heavy make out sessions. Nothing more.”
THURSDAY
Early start, shower, breakfast and kept busy working for most of the day without time to think. Not really much to talk about. Had a few cheeky feels of her ass and breasts while doing the shopping tonight but only for the giggles.
FRIDAY
“Another early start but back home by midday. Very horny today so I tried a few kisses to the neck the moment I saw her and was told “not now”. A couple of hours later, I tried again and ended up inserting a few fingers up her skirt while watching television but it didn’t go further as we had to go visit her family. Saw her brother’s girlfriend bend down to get a beer from the fridge, enjoyed the view and noticed her thong ride up above her leggings. Had a few thoughts about what she might look like naked.
Arrived home with my wife and ended up giving mutual oral. Tried my best to get her to deepthroat which she did, however she stopped after gagging a few times. I told her that I found it a turn on but she said it isn’t possible for a guy to enjoy hearing those sounds (If only she knew).
“I asked her to grind back and forth on my face as hard as she could but she was wary about whether it would hurt me so she was gentle. Kind of took the energy out of the situation because I like it rough. We both climaxed through the oral session so it stopped there.”
SATURDAY
“Woke up still tired, we spent most of the day shopping. This evening we went out. Again I took note of a few attractive looking women and had a few thoughts. After a few drinks I got very flirty and playful with my wife and tried my best to get her home so we could have sex.
It was a no-go area as she wanted to have another few drinks first. When we got home we kissed and cuddled but I could see she was too tired so it was straight to bed and sleep.
SUNDAY
“Got up and went for a shower, asked my wife to join me but it was refused had a kiss on the cheek and that was it. I waited for her to get in for her shower and watched a sex scene without masturbating. I find that it keeps me mentally aroused for the day when I watch a scene without masturbating.
I had lots of sexual thoughts through the day, many about wanting to watch my wife masturbate and wanting her to engage in more public acts.
“It is a very empowering concept to know that the woman who chose to be with me is desired by other men. She went to visit a relation tonight so I masturbated to the idea of having a cock in each of the three areas she could take them. Afterwards she arrived home and was up for sex but I wasn’t in the mood after masturbating. I fingered her on the couch and gave some oral until she was happy and then we went to bed.”
MONDAY
Early start, work until 6pm. We ate dinner and watched Netflix for the evening with some wine. Literally went to bed and straight to sleep. There wasn’t a lot else going on today.
TUESDAY
“Both of us were at home today, we had a few kisses and gropes here and there but that was just telling each other that we find each other a turn on. She told me at about 8pm that I should go pick up a bottle of red wine and a bottle of rosé. That is her way of saying ‘we are going to have sex’.
We had some drinks and started out on the couch. I slipped my hand between her thighs and she returned the favour by taking hold of what is between mine.
“After a while, I had her sit back on the couch with spread legs and I provided oral foreplay to get her ready. We then started a very hard and fast paced session. Again I wanted this to end with myself ejaculating onto her face and body but she said because of the time it was, she wasn’t going for a shower so upon compromise she finished me off with a blowjob and swallowed. I did appreciate the effort a lot because the best orgasm I have experienced time and time again has been by way of oral.”
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Rather than importing working, how great would it be to train Irish people to do these jobs, maybe even pay them a decent living wage.
@Munster1: The majority of people in ‘these jobs’ are Irish and wages vary greatly depending on who you work for, outside of HSE directly.
@Munster1: IT is one of the biggest industries in Ireland. It is known for it. Schools do not even teach IT or Computer studies (or not all of them). These are some of the highest paid jobs, and filled with migrants.
@Munster1: they routinely screen out Irish applicants. Their preference is for poor migrants.
Will we ever see an anti immigrant anti asylum seekers article in the Journal. Such an article would demonstrate Irish journalism commitment to free speech and open robust debate
@Richard Russell: I am an immigrant and quite frankly the Irish migrant policies are mad. There is none, no planning, no objectives. Other than lets get as many in. Not talking about asylum seekers as such, more eg migrants from non EU countries, coming in to do a masters and then stay, get spouse over asap and get pregnant asap so that children born here, 1000s every year.. I can understand individual migrants wanting to come over, but what I do not get is that it never been a topic to discuss during elections in in public debate. Irish people shy away from it, that is so unhealthy. Since fabric Irish society is changing rapidly and no one discusses it. Maybe it is changing for the better, but maybe not….
@Richard Russell: short answer: no. long answer: never.
The neo liberal wet dream, an unlimited pool of cheap migrant labour that will be used to keep wages down.
If you ask for better wages and conditions , you’ll soon be told that they can get someone from abroad who will replace you at half the cost.
@roscommonrebel: it is what the EU is about. Max migration, dilute local gen pool, with ultimate objective of getting rid of national sovereign states. All power to Brussels…..
Unfortunately, the reality is the state doesn’t value anyone, Irish or otherwise. Irish carers are incredibly undervalued too. On a seperate note and I know this is harsh, the idea of this section of society who require care being used as a pawn for all migrants to extend student visas to work visas seems a bit unscrupulous. They knew the rules of the visa they applied for.
Thank you Maeve for detailing the very important and caring work that specialised migrant workers help us in our health services.
So the studying is just a cover to come to work in a profession there isn’t any shortage of people at EU level … it seems the employers do not offer fair and within regulations work conditions to the carers such a provision of company car to go to multi- sites and the guarantee their employees have the mandatory minimum level of English to communicate with the customers
So we have people with visa to study English working in a profession that is mandatory a minimum level of English. In the health sector the minimum level of English is the highest level of English examinations
What put off more to the EU qualified carers and nurses to come here is their years of experience are never acknowledge, their paid is deducted for “being on training” and then the English exams to prove their ability to communicate effectively with the patients
The rest of EU professionals and traders, their experience is acknowledged by employers and professionals bodies.
Should be allowed stay, a credit to Brazil and I’d be happy for him to stay here.
And therein lies part of the problem as the govt says that most of the public/civil service can work from home when their databases cannot be accessed at home due to security issues,
@Noel O’Neill: Not sure what this has to do with the article above at all, also it’s completely untrue – staff who can work from home (the vast majority) do so over encrypted VPN, while any staff that cannot perform their duties remotely for whatever reason still attend their place of work in person. I trust that alleviates your concerns.
A lot of middlemen make money in this sector which is a waste of money. It would be better if the HSE didn’t lease this out to private companies. I suppose the concern is they would unionise and demand a living wage.
Today, Ireland treats migrants as prisoners. They cannot leave without a huge tax/fine, they cannot see family unlike those that have family in Ireland. Irelands school system is a joke. One of its highest paid industies is IT, but computer studies is not even taught as a subject in school (or not every school). Ireland still teaches woodwork – but not IT. The pandemic has brought out the worst in Ireland – locking itself away from the rest of the world – or demaning to be locked away. Continue these isolationist policies like border controls and covid tests at 100 a pop and migrants will leave, quaranteen will speed this up. They Ireland will be in serious trouble.
@Tony Humphreys: ? I am a migrant. Am not treated as prisoner at all. What on earth are you on about?
They were heros when ireland’s sick and elderly needed them and this should be recognised. They continued to work during pandemic even though those working in nursing homes are poorly paid and i will always be grateful to them. My mum is treated so kindly in her nursing home and we should do the right thing
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