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WEDDING PLANNING IS like a full-time job – which we don’t need to tell you if you’re in the middle of it at the moment, right?
But never fear – help is at hand.
From the cake to the caterers, there’s so much to organise. To get you started, we spoke to wedding planner Bláithín O’Reilly Murphy of The Wedding Expert and got advice on planning the perfect day out – and how to manage all that needs to be done beforehand. We also got the inside scoop from hitched staffers here in Journal Media on their big days.
That engagement party is a distant memory – time to get the head down.
People are moving away from the traditional hotel wedding for many reasons – whether it’s because they’re having smaller weddings or because they fancy doing something a bit more unique. O’Reilly Murphy has definitely noticed a trend towards weddings in city locations or people taking food inspiration from food trucks. She said:
People are tired of the beef or salmon option.
Of course, the main talking point of the day is often the meal (beating out the chat about the best man’s speech and the bride’s gown by a nose for our money). Chef Andrew Rudd gave us his top tips for having that go as smoothly as possible:
People remember three things about weddings – how beautiful the bride looks, the food and the entertainment.
He advised having interesting menus but not ones that were “too quirky”. Careful now.
His other insider suggestions include having a dessert bar that people can help themselves to later on in the evening, rather than overfeeding people at the main meal and having to do extra food later. (It’ll help to keep the food costs down too.)
And remember to have canapes: “Most people will not have had lunch so make sure to have some canapes to take the edge off before dinner comes.”
Asking how long it takes to plan a wedding is sort of like asking how long is a piece of string. That said, O’Reilly Murphy told us that there is actually one concrete time constraint – the three months notice to the Registrar of the couple’s intent to marry. “If you’re going for a legal wedding,” she says, “the minimum amount of time is the minimum amount of notice period you need to give.”
This sentiment was echoed by a married member of staff on TheJournal.ie news desk:
I think it’s important to recognise that there’s no logical end to wedding planning. Until the actual wedding. There is always something else you COULD be organising/adding on/complicating your life with, so you kind of have to just decide to draw the line somewhere.
That said, it’s vital to get organised in advance to both minimise your own stress and also to avoid a last-minute bump the road derailing your carefully laid plans. A sports writer from The42.ie shared his story:
I would say do all your planning way in advance because you never know what might pop up. We sorted everything about a month before ours which was handy as two weeks before, we had a family medical emergency with the bride’s Dad. We didn’t want to go ahead with the wedding but reluctantly did when he asked us to. We would not have been able to if we’d left things to the last minute.
While this is of course a worst case scenario, it does illustrate the pivotal importance of starting early. Unexpected bumps in the road are par for the course.
In order to tackle this task and help ensure you’re plugging away a little and often, another journalist shared this top tip from her planning experience:
Make a calendar of what you need to do every month, so you can see what has to be done and spend a bit of time on it, rather than trying to get lots done in fits and starts.
Planning a wedding requires so much time and effort that it’s really tough for the couple to do it all by their lonesome. Whether they hire a professional to sort the lot or merely draft in friends and family, O’Reilly Murphy said it’s imperative to start asking yourself the right questions from the outset:
How are you going to plan the wedding? Is it just going to be the couple themselves? Are they going to use a wedding planner? Are they going to get friends and family involved? Then decide ‘how are we going to organise those people or ourselves?’
She continued:
“Do you use Google docs, or Pinterest or even just paper and pen? Make it very central. The likes of Dropbox and Pinterest makes things so easy. Even having a Facebook group for your wedding party means you can all communicate and share really quickly and easily as well.”
And a Journal Media bod shared this (potentially life-changing) tip to boot:
I would say that if you have an over-involved mother or mother-in-law, give them something specific to organise and let them go to town on it.
That may be extremely helpful to some of you reading this – you know who you are if so… You can do it.
The part of the wedding that sends the most shivers down spines has got to be the budget. O’Reilly Murphy said that’s often because people simply don’t realise the price associated. For instance, if you budget €500 for a photographer, you’re going to get a bit of a land when you go looking for a good photographer later.
Really research those types of things before you set a budget… Overall it means you’re not getting these massive shocks closer to the wedding.
Pinterest can be a great source of inspiration in helping to inspire you. However, take this word of advice from the experts:
Don’t think you should go for these picture perfect setting and remember these images come from styled shoots or film sets where they’ve had days to set everything up and make it perfect. Always concentrate on what’s important for the day. Go for fabulous as opposed to perfection.
And one last thing – congratulations, of course.
Medley on Fleet Street East is the perfect venue for your perfect day. Not only does it have a winning city centre location, it’s also big on flavour, buzzing with style and brimming with originality. Find out for yourself at our Events Showcase on 5 February and check us out online at medley.ie.
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I know it’s a bit off the point but labour trying to defend job bridge is farcical. It completely plays into the hands of unscrupulous employers who instead of creating real positions and paying a real wage totally take advantage of desperate people who really want to work.
3/5 finding full time work through it would seem to bely that notion. Not to say that there aren’t numerous cases where it has been abused. It’s also done good in many cases.
Ireland now have the shameful position of the 2nd highest level of low paid workers in the OECD thanks to this government.
Spin it what ever way you want but when a family cant earn enough to feed and clothe themselves its the FIS that they turn to.
The government are encouraging low pay to massage live reg figures to churn out crap like 3/5 in “jobs” when it should be looked at along side how many of these people now also have to claim Family Income Supplement and still be at the poverty line. Job bridge = slavebridge.
@David, which report or piece of research found that 3/5 participants end up in full-time paid employment having completed their Jobbridge internship?
David don’t get sucked in by the figures they are highly massaged.
A labour TD accusing someone of backtracking now that’s laughable labour are experts at it but thankfully not for much longer labour are finished.
It seems Labour TDs are the ones clutching at straws trying to save their political hides before the next General Election.
Hmm, people not trusting what Gerry Adams says…..
They don’t seem to trust Labour either, very surprising.
No real surprise. Sinn Fein flip flop on most things. Just 3 weeks ago Pearse Doherty stated in morning Ireland that the abolition of water charges was not a red line issue for them to go into government coalition. 3 weeks on in the run up to a by election, they want to abolish it. Whatever is popular is their policy…
The labour party what, they’d know all about “chopping and changing key policies.”
What? That’s not like Gerry to be speaking out of both sides of his mouth.
Expect loads of smears against SF following todays opinion poll. FFFG are getting desperate.
Labour are terrified, they are on the brink of extinction. 24% for Sinn Fein. Its not trinners for winners, its shinners for winners today.
Mary Lou can claim both of those fine accolades.
Labours desperation is palpable.
Labor = Lacky Dogs . (apologies to mongrels and bitches everywhere)
When I first heard about Jobsbridge I thought it was a good idea, however it is incredibly flawed, nearly every store in my town uses it for free workers, they are to work 39 hours for an extra 50€ a week, granted you work for your dole money also but that still puts it below the minimum wage, the Jobsbridge scheme should be paying €100-150 plus for 39 hours a week work, this is bordering slave labour, I don’t see how it’s fair to have people working for so little money especially when all the jobs that used to be paid well are now a Jobsbridge scheme.
a TD asking a question on behalf of a constituent how very dare he!
This is a nothing piece of inter cert standard reporting, are would be’ Indo’ reporters working for the journal? 300 words about nothing and yet clouded in inferences displaying an agenda more appropriate for O’Brien’s tabloid rag than the Journal.
Do you honestly think the Journal isn’t every bit as agenda-driven as O’ Brien’s?
They are both now as bad as each other, SF are effectively the new FF and like the others not to be trusted whatsoever.
Anyone criticizing Gerry is a troll and must be silenced.
Unleash the dogs!
Early shift at the spintank today I see.
John why as a FG supporter would you defend Adams?
The concept of Job bridge seemed to be fine , It seems that many employers abuse the system and have no intentions of ever offering anyone a job at the end of there term .
Good old Ireland
Yes but their leaders did say they would pay water tax despite the “party stance” suggesting it be scraped, if that’s not hypocrisy i don’t know what is!
Sweeping government generated statistics bely the reality of the situation David.
As someone who was offered a permanent position through jobbridge I can only say good things about the scheme. That said it is open to abuse by employers.
JobsBridge was and is a great idea. Its implementation and criteria were unfortunately put together by morons. They should roll it out with with more definition and an onus on employers. It should not be allowed to be abused by the likes of mushroom and potato growers as is the case today.
Honestly is a politician not allowed change his mind or admit when their wrong.
Well FG seem to be ok with changing their minds on water charges.
I am 30 years old, I worked for 7 almost 8 years when I finnished school had a good job worked my way up through a company went to college when the down turn hit and got my honours degree. It’s wasn’t easy. Paying bills, paying for a house like most people but I worked hard. I started a jobbridge as I couldn’t find anything else local and I have to say it’s a total let down. Was told on a Friday to start on the Monday but they had nothing set up for me when I got there. I got to spend 3 days looking at a computer that didn’t work, I was stuck in a corner of an office all day. I can’t help but think if I was getting a weekly wage and not on jobbridge I wouldn’t be left and forgotten. My skills, education, experience would be getting used… It’s a daily occurrence as well.
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