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Opinion Are we ready to let go of the Catholic Church's rituals?

Baptism, First Communion, Confirmation, Marriage and Burial are now rites of passage but do we understand their theological foundations, writes Shane Dunphy.

I ATTENDED A First Communion two years ago with Dominic* a child I was working with who was in care.  

As we sat in the pews, waiting for the ceremony to begin, the youngster peered up at the large crucifix hanging above the altar and asked me: “Why’d they hang that guy up there anyway?”

I glanced down at my young ward. “You mean Jesus?”

“Yeah. That fella” said Dominic. “I keep asking why he’s up there and the teacher just keeps sayin’ he done it to save us all, but that doesn’t make much sense.”

Well, I had to admit that it didn’t. 

We went to have lunch in a hotel after the ceremony.  When, during dessert, Dominic wondered aloud if he could have an ice-cream sandwich made from two Communion wafers, I really knew then that something had been lost in translation.

And I knew he wasn’t alone in his confusion.

My Facebook newsfeed has this past fortnight, been full of photographs of beaming youngsters accompanied by proud parents, aunts and uncles, all fresh from First Communion ceremonies all over the country.

The images generally show boys in suits (the formal look given a funky twist with brightly coloured designer trainers); the girls more traditional – white dresses seem to still be in favour, but the hair of these communicants is augmented with extensions, makeup is liberally applied and a (usually subtle) application of fake tan is not uncommon.

Needless to say, the commentary on First Communion (and to a lesser extent Confirmation) 2019 has been mixed.  While the majority smile and congratulate, there has been some sniping. The negative discourse falls into two main topics that could sum up many an Irish conversation: money and faith.

Hillary Fannin, in a recent column in the Irish Times, commented on the folly of spending upwards of €1,000 on a First Communion (the estimated average spend per child this year), and bemoaned the ‘Princess Packages’ being advertised in beauty salons, not to mention the availability of things like pink Playboy hummers to transport your child to the church.

Which means that it’s more than just the cost that offends -it is also the perceived vulgarity.

At my Dominic’s Communion there was indeed one hummer (in camouflage colours), and a few dresses that were so large they required extra space on the bench and looked as if an entire Swarovski crystal factory had exploded near them.  A couple of the little girls appeared to have been dipped in Ronseal Mahogany Wood Stain.

And frankly, I don’t think it took away from the experience at all.  In some ways, it added to the pageantry and the fun of the ceremony.

And whose business is it to cast judgement on what is cool or tasteful?

I work on the assumption that parents are adults and can decide how much they can afford to spend, and if their kids are likely to enjoy a hummer ride and an aggressively coloured fake tan – who am I or anyone else to say they’re wrong?  

Such entertainments aren’t for me, but that shouldn’t detract from anyone else’s enjoyment.

Which brings us to faith – the reason the children are supposed to be in church in the first place.  

I had a conversation last week with a parent who admitted that his son had been in the local church more times this month preparing for Communion than the rest of his life combined.  

“So you don’t attend Mass then?” I asked.

“No. Stopped going when I was thirteen.”

“But you still want your son to make his communion?”

He looked at me as if I had sprouted an extra head. “Of course I do!  Sure it’s something we all go through, isn’t it?”

And I was immediately reminded of Dominic’s idea for religious desserts. How many children will have lined up to receive the host this year with no real concept of what they are doing and no concept of religious faith?

Baptism, First Communion, Confirmation, Marriage and Burial are now rites of passage but do we understand their theological foundations.  

Christmas and Easter are important holidays, St Patrick’s Day is a national celebration – these festivals hold deep religious symbolism, but for most are simply social, and indeed commercial, events.

The Irish Catholic ran an article this week about the bid to remove preparation for Communion and Confirmation from schools completely to instead leave such religious and spiritual instruction to parents.

I don’t think it an over-exaggeration to suggest that this would mean the end of the established Church in Ireland, because I’m fairly certain that most parents simply wouldn’t bother.

And maybe it’s time we as a society made a decisive move away from the Church.

Doing just that is much on my mind just now, as last weekend my family said goodbye to a beloved matriarch.

Philomena Coughlan was my wife’s Aunt. Phil was a wife, a mother, a grandmother and a great grandmother and she left this world peaceful and content, surrounded by those she loved.  

Following Phil’s passing, we all spent several days wrapped up in the familiar blanket of the Roman Catholic funeral ceremonies, and for the first time, I really paid attention to how my family experienced the process.

What struck me, as someone who has long since stepped away from the Church, was how the rituals acted as buffers for the very real and deeply painful emotions that were bubbling below the surface.

While the process created space to celebrate the person who was gone – we spent hours sharing memories and stories as we sat in the funeral home or hung about the church – it was equally about practicalities like timetabling the various events, making sure the more far-flung members of the clan knew where to go and when to be there, making sandwiches and organising flowers.

There was never any question that Phil would have a Roman Catholic funeral, as the church was an important part of who she was, but for those of us who are less inclined, I wondered if we could still have all the comfort of ritual and celebration without having to bring a priest in at all?

I concluded that we could, quite easily.  The funeral directors saw the family through most of the hurdles and provided a calm, dignified presence, not to mention a venue for people to meet and say their last goodbyes.  

The actual burial does not need to be officiated by a priest – although it is likely one would be present in a Roman Catholic graveyard, and it’s challenging to find non-denominational ones.  

The physical structure of the church I realised, was not essential.  The readings and the songs and the eulogising could have taken place in the funeral home just as effectively.

For Phil and her immediate family, Roman Catholicism was a really important part of it all, and for that reason it was beautiful.  And that is the point.

If faith figures largely in your life then, by all means, celebrate the sacraments.  If, however, you are simply going through the motions and these rituals are no more than a jumble of meaningless words and gestures, then maybe a rethink is called for.  

On the way back to the residential unit on the evening of his First Communion, I chatted with Dominic. “Do you feel any different?” I asked.

“I certainly do,” he nodded vigorously.

“Holier?” I ventured.

He grinned, holding up the brand new wallet he had purchased with the spoils of the day.

“Richer,” he said.  

Shane Dunphy is a child protection expert and author.  He is Head of the Social Care Department at Waterford College of Further Education. 

* The child’s name has been changed.

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    Mute Marg murphy
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    May 22nd 2016, 10:34 AM

    These projects are really good for kids. And teachers like that are worth their weight in gold.

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    Mute Eamon Mac Gowan
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    May 22nd 2016, 11:47 AM

    @Marg murphy,
    They’re not kids, they’re 18-22 year olds, and this looks like something you would see in the jungle.
    Talk about dumbing down.

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    May 22nd 2016, 12:22 PM

    @eamon go back to bed

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    May 22nd 2016, 12:46 PM

    @Donnacha Bhoicaire,
    You’re easily impressed, no wonder Ireland’s colleges have such low rankings.
    GMIT is far behind MIT.

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    Mute Marg murphy
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    May 22nd 2016, 1:26 PM

    @eamonn. I should have read beyond the first line the article where I read “schoolchild”. I thought it was a primary school project.

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    Mute Eamon Mac Gowan
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    May 22nd 2016, 1:40 PM

    @Marg murphy,
    Yes, if it was young children who built it, then it would be impressive.

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    Mute Shane Freeney
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    May 22nd 2016, 2:18 PM

    Eamon Mac I really feel sorry for you and your negative life. It’s very sad for you

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    May 22nd 2016, 5:53 PM

    You don’t really seem like someone people would like.

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    Mute Irish Names
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    May 22nd 2016, 10:09 AM

    Tis a little on the exposed side for a winter classroom.

    Good for cider parties in the summer though.

    Good thinking.

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    May 22nd 2016, 10:13 AM

    Robinson Crusoe would be proud of you.. !!

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    May 22nd 2016, 10:55 AM

    You can’t be doom and gloom all the time, sometimes a bit of been positive can lift you up.

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    May 22nd 2016, 11:11 AM

    Agreed

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    May 22nd 2016, 10:49 AM

    Housing problem solved, no morgage.

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    May 22nd 2016, 10:31 AM

    Well you can’t beat there optimism about the weather!

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    May 22nd 2016, 12:06 PM

    Fantastic to see how rapidly Mayo civilisation is advancing.

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    May 22nd 2016, 3:07 PM

    This is simply awesome. Yes it’s not brick and mortar boring thinking that would leave a huge carbon footprint. It’s out of the box thinking that encourages more out of the box thinking. I remember looking out glass windows of lecture rooms on a nice sunny day wishing for something like this. The fact that brick and mortar buildings are assumed to be a “continuous improvement ” from such structures as this makes one think about construction methods and it’s success could probably be measured by the pride that all involved have when they look at it. Large scale team building exercise with a functional result that can be used by many. Not all will see but not all have creative ability and less have creative ability with follow through. Congratulations to you all.

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    May 22nd 2016, 4:08 PM

    Thank you for your comments Croistoir. The project is part of an ongoing Green Campus initiative under Local Agenda 21 funding. The students explored the principles of place based education whilst constructing the classroom. The module that students were taking which this project is part of was sustainable environmental management. If you require any further information please contact me via the Facebook page.

    Aodan

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    May 22nd 2016, 3:03 PM

    There’s an awful lot of ar$eholery in this thread.
    See if you can spot who I’m on about.
    I’ll post the answer in a short while. :-)

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    May 22nd 2016, 5:11 PM

    Eamon MacGowan?

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    May 22nd 2016, 5:20 PM

    Too easy

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    May 22nd 2016, 11:54 AM

    Well at least it’s air -conditioned!

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    May 22nd 2016, 12:36 PM

    Great to be able to do this without planning permission, wheelchair access, fire restrictions etc……..

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    May 22nd 2016, 4:18 PM

    It’s part of an environmental sustainability management module, exploring the principles of placed based education. It for the entire community not just the college but for local national schools and youth organisations.

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    May 22nd 2016, 1:16 PM

    Amazing health & safety has not shut it down !

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    May 22nd 2016, 12:29 PM

    They’ve been watching too much Bear Grylls.

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    May 22nd 2016, 11:52 AM

    I hope they wont be given the job of designing social housing.We might freeze to death!

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    May 22nd 2016, 11:00 AM

    Yeah wow fair play, threw it together as a wee little project!

    When the sad fact remains that millions of children around the world do actually have their whole schooling in such lacking facilities due to poverty.

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    May 22nd 2016, 1:16 PM

    This is so Irish, any old halfhearted effort will do.
    Shure it’s grand!

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    May 22nd 2016, 1:41 PM

    Relax eamon I’m sure it was meant as an exercise to get some youngsters out of a lecture hall and thinking outside the box, no one, well except Gerard, was suggesting this was the solution to all the worlds ills

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    May 22nd 2016, 5:16 PM

    Get some help Eamon. You appear to have a major malfunction. Well don’t gmit

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    May 22nd 2016, 8:53 PM

    Racist comments, to me, are suggestive of a certain tardiness with regard to the evolutionary process.

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    May 22nd 2016, 7:00 PM

    It doesn’t look a bit impressive to me.
    A bit naff.
    Students should be out protesting and throwing stones at the police.
    Not wasting their time building such ridiculous childish tree houses.

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    May 22nd 2016, 7:13 PM

    P.S
    I built a better tree-house than that when I was 9 years old.

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    May 22nd 2016, 11:55 AM

    Erm, can I ask is it hurricane proof?

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    May 22nd 2016, 5:55 PM

    Are you thinking of teaching a class there during one of our frequent hurricanes?

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    May 22nd 2016, 1:57 PM

    I could be cynical and point out how hedge schools came into my mind when I first saw this article. The country was under an administration that cared little for the common people at that point. Some things don’t change

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